People who stress you out:
Parenting, balancing relationships, tackling daily chores, and working hard to accomplish your set goals can already be exhausting and stressful. If somewhere in between all of this, there is a person who stresses you out to a point where you can't enjoy your downtime and personal accomplishments, you have to ask yourself if this godforsaken person is worth having around. Probably not. Cut them out.
People who don't respect you:
I know I'm no alone with this, but before I became a mother, I used to live for me. I did what I wanted to do whenever I pleased. Now, most decisions I make are dictated by my son's existence. Will it serve my son's well-being? Will is serve my little family's well-being? Will I hurt my nearest and dearest if I make this decision? While you might believe that you're making healthy and wise decisions, others will offer their unsolicited advice. Without looking at the state of their own lives, they will belittle your decisions and actions. They will make passive aggressive comments and not respect the decisions you make as an individual, wife, and mother. You're too important to allow other people to not respect your decisions and the way you choose to live your life. So, cut them out.
People who don't inspire you:
I try to surround myself with people who can intellectually and spiritually inspire me. We're attracted to people that we can learn from, people who can make us feel happy and new. So, in a way, we all 'use' other people's wisdom and knowledge to develop into better individuals. I'm not talking about these awesome people. I'm talking about letting go of the people who suck the energy, the desire to live a good life out of you. I'm talking about those people who make you feel miserable because of their miserable view of the world. Again, life is short. Time is limited. The goals you set for yourself and what you can accomplish during that time is limited. Your physical ability to do things is limited. So you know what you do? Stop making time for these people and cut them out.
People who are two faced:
We've all met a person who will smile to your face and then insult you behind your back. They're cowards. They're insecure. They get off on gossiping because they don't want to face the state of their own lives.They don't deserve your time and the space they take up in your life. After all, strong relationships and families are built on trust and honesty. In most cases, relationships and families fall apart because of lack of trust and honesty. If someone can't be honest with you and accept criticism, you know it's time to cut them out. Period.
People who don't motivate you:
I believe you become the people that surround you. Surround yourself with people who are inspirational, successful, and confident. Those are the people who will motivate you to do better and take risks in life. If you surround yourself with people who feel like they're victims, you will begin to feel like a victim, too. Remember this: life is not happening to you- life is responding to you. So, surround yourself with people who resonate positivity, and life will respond to you in the most rewarding way.
This is your year to shine! You got this because you're strong and there isn't anything you can't do! This is your journey. Happy New Year! xo